*Photo by Adara Photography
*Photo by Adara Photography
The top is made with Nerds and Rainbow Twizzlers, carefully held in place by toothpicks.
Here’s the back of the cake:
*Photo by Adara Photography
*Photo by Adara Photography
The top is made with Nerds and Rainbow Twizzlers, carefully held in place by toothpicks.
Here’s the back of the cake:
It’s official, my little baby girl Remy turned one!! I still can’t believe how fast the time has gone! My little girl came in to this world weighing a petite 6 pounds 10 ounces and had the thickest head of hair!
I decided to keep up with tradition and throw my daughter a 1st birthday party! (See my son’s Halloween themed first birthday party here.)
I wanted a princess themed birthday party, but the more I looked into the decorations the more I thought it just looked too “store bought”. I always like designing my own stuff, so I came up with some decorations and planned the party! Here are a few shots of the decorations:
Here’s my cute cupcake stand that housed all the cupcakes for the guests.
Of course no party would be complete without pictures of the birthday girl! Here is her enjoying her cake!
It’s hard to believe how fast she had grown.
It’s been officially one month since we brought home our second child Remy. It feels strange, because I can honestly say that it hasn’t felt like it’s been a month. Things have been going pretty good, but you can tell by my lack of blogging that I have been a little busy. With that said, I have been pretty good about responding to the random emails I get from a number of friends asking many questions— such as “How are you doing?” “Are you getting sleep?” “Are you going insane yet?” and more along those lines. I love the concern that my friends have and thought I would write a blog about the most common question of all, “What’s it like having two kids?” Well here it goes….
The Second Is Easier
I know this one is a HUGE statement to start out this blog, but I really feel (and might regret) saying that so far having a second child is easier. I say this because you aren’t as jumpy or as clueless of a parent the second time around. I remember when we first had Aiden and any little noise he made would send me running over to the bassinet. You aren’t familiar with nursing (which I can say now I have had two kids, Aiden was SUPER hard to nurse) and you just aren’t accustom to all the other things that come with a baby (burping, diapers, crying, and lack of sleep.) With the second one, it’s just like a repeat, especially if you are like me and can remember doing it with the first one not very long ago. Now, I should also say that God has blessed me with not one, but two calm babies with quiet cries– who enjoy sleeping. This could change any minute with her and I might regret writing these words because she is only a month old, but so far she has been an easy baby to have.
The Balancing Act
It’s somewhat of a balancing act to have a 2 year old and a 1 month old. As an only child your toddler is use to you praising every little accomplishment, laughing at all the silly things they do, and comforting every little noise of frustration they might make. When the second child comes along, it’s hard to be there to “reaffirm” every little action he or she makes. Between lack of sleep, nursing a newborn, changing multiple diapers daily, and trying to maintain your household it becomes very hard to notice every little movement the first child makes and give them the praise you use to. They notice this and it’s hard for them to understand. I know it’s very hard it is for him to comprehend having a sibling this at this age, so I try to make my best effort to give him my undivided attention between all the other activities going on around the house. Even if it’s yelling “Good job buddy!” all the way across the house, he hears me and notices that I am noticing him.
With the second child comes a type of parenting super power you never wished you had so much with the first— the ability to not just protect one child, but now two children. It sounds easy enough, but you never realize until you bring home child number 2 that you might have to protect them from child number 1, especially a toddler! My toddler is all boy….loud, hyper, rough, and dirty. With the new baby around, I have to make sure he understands he can’t be so rough with her and it’s very difficult for him to understand. The other day I turned my back for a second and he was trying to shove a bottle into her mouth. (It was seriously a second– I walked 5 feet from the table to the kitchen.) He has a habit of shoving a stuff in her face and yelling “THANK YOU BROTHER” as he things he is being helpful. Although you can’t really grow eyes in the back of your head (which would be nice), I now have to learn to scan the room for any “harmful scenarios” that could take place between a toddler and a baby. He is learning not to be as rough with her, but he still has to be reminded once in a while.
Enjoy The Moments
In all the not so fun times of adding a second baby, it’s important to remember to enjoy the moments with your kiddos especially in hard times. I found at first I was becoming very frustrated with having two kids. It gets overwhelming to change 7 “stinky” diapers in 2 hours or have your toddler mimic the cry of the baby at the same time to get attention. Not to mention the hormone fluctuations that come with just having a baby. Life can be hard adjusting to two kids and I found myself yelling more and honestly most of the yelling was directed at my toddler. Not screaming or anything like that, but just yelling “No” or “Timeout” louder. Let’s face it, toddlers do naughty things because they don’t know any better and they are learning. I had to stop and remind myself that at this moment– the moment when I have a 2 year old and a 1 month old– will never happen again! This is the only time in my life when my kids will be this age. I don’t want to feel like all I do is yell at my kids. I don’t want my toddler to learn yelling is the way to handle stress. I don’t want the baby to grow up only knowing a mother who yells. It’s important to realize that these “hard time” are not really hard. They are uncomfortable moments, but will for sure make good memories some day. It’s important to keep my cool, control my emotions, and speak in a normal voice for the benefit of all of us.
Ask For Help
It’s now been 2 weeks since I had my little Remy! Each day is more and more of a joy to see her little movements, smiles, and expressions. Remy is my second child and having an almost 2 year old running around at the same time as taking care of a newborn can be exciting. Fortunately, I have my in-laws here for another few days to help me out while I heal up from my c-section.
With that being said, I am 2 weeks into postpartum life and I feel that I must have blocked a lot of this phase after Aiden because many new things I am experiencing I don’t remember having with him. With that being said, I thought I would write a post on the good, the bad, and the ugly of this phase.
No Longer Pregnant- Of course this would be number one! I love being pregnant but the last few weeks of being large and uncomfortable, the heartburn, and the lack of sleep due to a baby partying hard at 3am makes it tough. Having her out is very nice!
Baby Faces- The look on a newborn when they have a full belly after eating is priceless. It’s a combo look of almost being drunk and happy. Sometimes we will get the largest grin on her face, I know it is most likely gas, but it does truly melt your heart.
Big Brother Fun- Her brother, Aiden, is still somewhat unsure what to do with her, but each day he gets better. We have to work with him on touching her soft and being gentle, but I am sure he will learn that soon enough. It is very sweet to see him kiss her on the head and quite humorous when he mimics her cry. Each day is a new adventure with the two.
Emotions- This comes with all pregnancies. Some women have it worse then others, but I just keep reminding myself that it’s just hormones adjusting and I won’t let them take over my life. If I feel like crying, I do and when people ask what’s wrong, I just tell them it’s hormones. If I get mad, I trying to calmly remind myself that it’s hormones and this too shall pass. Basically, I probably say “it’s just hormones” a couple times a day to myself to keep myself calmed down. I will not let the hormones control my life.
Lack of sleep- Going on 2 weeks now with not sleeping more than 3.5 hours at a time has been rough. Not as rough as it was with my first child, but rough still. I have a policy that up to 2 weeks you feed them at least every 4 hours at night and every 2-3 during the day. I have to practically strip her naked to wake her up to eat at night, but in the long run, I know she needs the nutrients more then her sleep. After her 2 week checkup we will see if the Dr. oks me to start trying to let her sleep through the night on her own….I hope so!
Menopause- Well not really, but I feel like I could be on a commercial for a woman going through menopause. I have hot flashes and cold sweats at night. It’s horrible. I wake with my pillow soaked and have to flip it over when I get back to bed. It’s getting better each day, but I am praying for the cold weather right now!
Hives- BY FAR THE WORST! I did not have this with Aiden, but I think it is somewhat common with women. I had a friend who broke out in hives for months and then found out she was pregnant and it was a side effect. I am experiencing this postpartum and it is very uncomfortable. I try my hardest not to scratch them and take benadryl each night to help out.
Body Image- There is a little known secret (really known quite well) that even though the baby comes out, it doesn’t mean that your body goes back all at once. In fact, it takes up to 2 months for all your organs to return to their normal spots and your women parts to shrink back to their old size. (I like the pic above because it shows how your organs change.) I think I blocked out this part with Aiden. I was calling myself Humpty Dumpty in the hospital, as I felt like my stomach was long, big, and awkward just like the sketches you see of Humpty Dumpty In addition, I made the stupid mistake of weighing myself yesterday. There was a little part in my mind that hoped I would step on that scale and have only 10 pounds to lose, though I am not one of those lucky women. I gain the weight with my pregnancies (50 pounds with both) and will have to lose the weight again like I did with my first. I honestly should have waited to weigh myself until I was a full 2 months postpartum, because the damage on the scale might not have been so bad 🙂
Well, that is my postpartum life–the good, the bad, and the ugly. Although there are two negative categories (bad and ugly) I don’t want to detract on how much I am so happy to have this new little girl in my life. I love being a mother and the good, bad, and the ugly all come with this task. I would take all the negative (and more) for all the positives that come from my children any day!
Add in the rice pilaf mixture and stir.
Add in cooked wild rice and 1 package of almonds.
Grease two baking dishes. I made the meal that night, so used the smaller one for dinner and the larger one is for the deep freezer.
Sprinkler top with remaining package of sliced almonds.
Cover and freeze one casserole for up to 3 months. I use tin foil on the top and then cover with the lid that matches the pan to prevent freezer burn. Label the freezer one to thaw, bake at 350 degrees for 40-50 minutes or until warm.
Pin these two sides together. If one side happens to be slightly larger then the other, no big deal. Just make sure the edges touch and let the material gap in the center. It will help with the fluffiness of your pillow.
Sew the sides together. (Just a note– Because you will be sliding your pillow in and out of this opening I triple reinforced my stitching on the opening to prevent ripping it out when fitting the pillow in.)
Pin on your next overlap side of the pillow. Make sure the two overlap side pieces do in fact overlap.
Sew the second overlap side on and you will end up with a cover that looks like this:
Turn the cover right side out.
You should have a nice little overlap that you can squish your pillow into.
I would be lying if I said it was super easy to slide my pillow in. This pillow was so fat I probably should have cut the material to be 2 inches larger then the pattern, but it still worked just fine!
Cut out the fabric about 5/8″ outside of the label. This extra amount will be for your Stitch Witchery. Also, leave a little extra fabric on one end to overlap…just a little…I think this is about 1 inch.
If you have never used Stitch Witchery, it’s an awesome product. It basically glues fabric together to make a nice edge on it. Lay out your Stitch Witchery on each side of the fabric.
Use your iron to press the fabric and Stitch Witchery together. You should get a finished edge like below. Leave the one end without the Stitch Witchery, as this end will be overlapped with the finished edge.
At the end of your fabric, you will want to have it finished to look like it’s one continual piece. This is where the fabric glue comes in.
On the seam of the fabric, make a small line of glue and press the fabric together. Let this dry.
You will end up with a cute covered lampshade that was EASY!!
Now if you are like me and want a more finished look– I decided to add ribbon to the top and bottom of the shade.
I made a small line of fabric glue around the top edge of the lampshade and placed the ribbon around it.
To prevent the ribbon from fraying on the end, I used pinking shears to cut the ribbon. Don’t worry, no one will look that close at your ribbon to see the jagged edge. Glue the two ends of the ribbons together.
Repeat the process with the bottom ribbon.
And you are FINISHED!! A super cute covered lampshade that was so easy to do! I absolutely LOVE this self-adhesive lampshade and will buy them again hands down!
At this view you see our closet, crib, and guitar. You might notice I still have the drop side crib, but in my defense you need to be a body builder to get the side down. We didn’t take it down once with Aiden and it’s really hard to move it down, so we decided to keep it as the danger of them is suppose to be the sides falling down.
I think I will always refer to my first pregnancy as my “perfect” pregnancy, despite the medical issues we had while I was carrying him. I was never sick, not that tired, and honestly did almost everything I did before I was pregnant. However, with this second pregnancy I can say that I have not been so lucky. I think all my bragging about no sickness/problems with the first has caught up to me and I am now paying the price. I decided just to write a little blog about the complaints of my pregnancy, really as a way to vent somewhat about the discomforts of this pregnancy. Hope you enjoy in my pain 🙂
With the first, I was lucky enough not to be sick at all. However, with this one I experienced nausea almost right away. I never have actually gotten sick, but the queasy feeling is something that I still will get every so often and it’s annoying! I feel super bad for the women who are sick the entire pregnancy. I don’t know how they do it!
I am naturally an energetic person. If you can’t tell by my numerous projects I work on, I like to get things done! I remember the first trimester always being very low energy but with this one it has sneaked it’s way into the second. It also could be the fact that I am chasing around a toddler too!
I have never had heartburn, until now. It is terrible! I don’t know what causes it, but if at 25 weeks I am getting it I can’t imagine how bad it will be when I am 39 weeks! I heard that heartburn it means she will have lots of hair when she is born. If that is so, I will gladly take the heartburn! I have thin hair and would love for her to get my husband’s thick hair!
With my first child, Aiden, I gained 50 pounds while pregnant and I SWORE I would not do the same with this one! The weight was hard to lose and I spent many of sweaty workouts trying to lose it! With this one I have eaten a lot healthier, not had ice cream every night, and tried to focus on eating smaller portions. I workout about 5 times a weeks for 30 minutes, not to mention chasing a toddler around. So how have I been doing? Well, I am 24 weeks along and I have gained almost 30 pounds! Looks like I will probably put on another 50 pounds with this pregnancy too! Not what I wanted to happen, but I think some people just put on more weight than others while pregnant. The upside of this is that this child should most likely be a normal sized baby, unlike Aiden. It’s one thing to put on 50 pounds and have an 7+ pound baby, it’s another to put on 50 pounds and have a 4 pound baby like with Aiden.
I read somewhere years ago that your body can store up sleep. So I have been trying to get as much sleep as possible each day. I usually take a short 20-30 minute nap mid afternoon and go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 7am. However, in the last few days, my night sleep has been interrupted by this little girl kicking me awake….and continuing to kick for hours! I am not sure what she is doing in there, but I am not a fan of it. This is probably part of the reason that I am so tired throughout the day. I guess she is just preparing me for her arrival!
Those are my rants about this pregnancy. I guess they are probably pretty normal with most pregnant women’s complaints and I do have to say I feel much better since ranting a little about them! I have to look on the bright side though. We are having a girl, which is what we wanted! Of course the pregnancy is going to be different, they always are! In a few months when we get to see her little face I am sure all this moaning and groaning will be well worth it!
Well, many of you who read this blog saw a few months back I posted that we were expecting our second child. (Baby 2.0) I am officially 20 weeks along and still can’t believe how tired I am! If you haven’t noticed the lack of blogging from me, I have just been too wiped out! Not to mention the fact we have been on 2 vacations in the last 3 weeks, which alone is enough to wear a girl out. Also, throw being pregnant and chasing a 19 month old around and you have a big recipe for sleep!
Anyways, if you don’t know this already, 20 weeks is the magic number of weeks when the doctors will finally tell you the sex of your baby. Many people like to wait till the birth, but I honestly can’t stand it!!! I want to start brewing ideas for the nursery right away!
The magical day came on Friday and they do their best to keep you waiting to find out. First they checked all the usual– you know the head size, leg size, arm size, counted fingers…you can see it the pic below the baby appears to be sucking their thumb.
Then they showed us a side view of their face.
And then the awesome 3-D view that was super hard to get. The technician tried forever to get a better picture but the baby was really camera shy! The nose is missing in the pic below as the baby was doing their best to hide it’s face.
And finally after waiting 20 weeks to find out, she typed the gender on the screen!
It’s A GIRL!!!!
I can honestly say we are super shocked to find this out. We wanted a girl sooo bad and as my husband said the odds are 66% that we would have the same sex as the first child. I did a bunch of voodoo magic tricks to try to get a girl and I guess one of them must have worked!
So that is our happy news as of late! I am sure you will see this blog decorated everywhere with pink very soon! I have already gone garage sale shopping and purchased over 17 pink sleepers and 5 dresses. I am looking forward to decorating the nursery and seeing this little girl’s face soon!!!