Freedom is not free
Freedom is not free
Lately I have been feeling a little distracted, to say the least. My husband and I found out right before my trip to Florida that I was pregnant. I have basically spent the last four weeks hiding it from our family & the last twelve weeks hiding it from our friends and co-workers. I have wanted SOOOOO badly to blog about this wonderful time in our life, but we wanted to make sure everything was going to go smoothly. My husband and I wanted to wait until our first doctor’s appointment and makes sure that all things checked out fine. It is finally safe to say that we can finally let everyone know the wonderful news.
We decided to let our family know early. We broke the news to our parents with some cleverly decorated Easter eggs that said “We’re Egg-specting”. We had such a fun time decorating the eggs. Actually, I pretty much was in charge of placing the decals and he decorated all of the eggs but two. We went to his parents house over Easter weekend and stopped at my parents house along the way. It was so funny to see our parents reactions because both were so different. My parents, already being Grandparents were not quite as excited as his. My mom struggled, trying to read the words and the eggs. I finally had to tell her what they said, and my parents seemed to sit there in shock at first and then were very happy for us. His parents had a more energetic reaction. Being first time Grandparents and all, his Mom started screaming (a good scream) and his Dad insisted on we head out to the bar to celebrate. Which we did and I had root beer!
After three weeks of begging, on my 29th birthday, my husband took me to the hospital and performed our first ultrasound. It was so nice to have just the two of us in that room to see our baby for the first time. He guessed I was about 9-10 weeks along because you can’t detect the heartbeat very easily until that point. After a couple times of pushing and prodding, he found our baby. I really can’t tell at all that the image was a baby, but he could pick up the arms, legs, heart-beating and a little movement. Here’s the picture taken by my cell phone.
On Thursday of this last week, we finally had our first doctor’s appointment. It seems really late, but we chose a doctor that my husband has worked with and my friends have gone to. It turns out she is REALLY in demand and hard to get into. After the visit, I see why she has been a favorite OB around our town, she was awesome! The results are in…I am officially twelve weeks and three days along! And so far, so good. The baby is at a healthy weight and everything appears to be going good.
Now that we had the OK from our doctor, we were able to tell our co-workers and friends…and of course “make it official” by announcing it on facebook! I was very nervous about telling the company I work for. I work for a small business and when we are down one person, it is a really big strain on everyone there. To my relief they took the news great! They said we would figure something out, even maybe letting me work from home and on the weekends. Such wonderful news! I have the best job in the world!
When we told our friends, there was a little more mystery involved. We were all getting together for a barbecue on Friday. My husband thought it would be funny to make a fake email address (email@example.com) and send out the ultrasound photos to everyone on the invite list. It made for quite the game, and emails started flying around all day the next day. Well, I knew I was in trouble. I mean if I show up the party with juice in hand, everyone will know right away! I had to come up with a clever plan. Here was my plan: Buy a bottle of Fre non-alcoholic wine, rip off the label, create a new one at work that says “alcoholic”. My devious plan totally worked! I had to go through the night drinking some pretty nasty tasting grape juice, but it was fun just to see all the guesses going around the party. A couple hours into the barbecue, my husband started handing out cigars and everyone knew! It was such a fun night and I stayed out to 1am, which is the latest I have been up for months!
So needless to say, I have spent the last 12 weeks a little distracted with the new baby and all. I have been lucky enough not to be sick, but I have been very tired and lost some of my normal motivation. I still go to the gym and try to run a couple miles a week. Sometimes, all I want to do is sit on the couch and watch movies, so really it is whatever I feel like that day.
The kitchen has almost come to a complete halt. We had our new granite counter tops installed while I was in Florida, but since then not much has been done. My husband has almost finished resurfacing all the cupboards. I did finish up sanding all the crown molding, but now that I can’t stain (due to the fumes) things have really hit a stopping point. I came home yesterday to my husband starting the backsplash, so I guess we will start up again. He made up this rule that we can’t start another room until the first one is finished, so I just have to hang out and wait on that kitchen. I can’t wait to start the nursury! I already have so many plans in mind.
That is my exciting news to share with the world. Having a baby is such wonderful news and we are so excited to begin starting our family!
When you get married, you take the vows to be with your spouse “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part”. Some of us really have taken our vows quite literally, well the ‘death do us part” part. I am not saying this is bad, I mean it is good for a marriage to spend time together. To enjoy each others company, laugh with each other, and really just connect with your husband. However, many times we women tend to take it too literally and barely make time for our friends, which can also be a strain on your marriage. Let’s face it ladies, men really don’t find our topic of conversations all that interesting ALL the time. My husband could care less about my new shirt I bought or whether the new nail polish color goes well with my feet. It’s healthy and good for us women to make that girl time and keep it.
I find that I am very guilty in keeping my vows of marriage too much. I LOVE being with my husband, we always have such a good time together, but he too understands how important it is for us to spend some time apart. He is very good about making his friend time, but I do have quite the hard time making time for my friends. Before I make plans with people I say that I need to check my husband’s schedule. I should say though, that my husband does not work a normal schedule. He works at a hospital which makes most of his work hours weekends and nights…which is opposite of my schedule, I work a 7:30-4:30 Monday through Friday schedule. That means our schedules are pretty much opposite, so when we do have time overlapping I tend to find myself choosing to spend time with my husband more than hanging out with my friends. I have missing baby showers, wedding showers, monthly girls night dinners, and just weekends away visiting a friend who only live 6 hours away (sorry Sarah).
So when my old roommates from when I was 19 wanted to plan a getaway, I thought this could be my perfect time to make more time for my friends. We planned a 5 day trip to Destin, FL. Hoping to catch some rays, relax, and just enjoy each other’s company. This was our first time we have ever planned a trip together and I was super excited. I mean, it’s been 10 years since we have lived with each other. The last time I saw them was our weddings, which were 3 years ago. I am so glad that I made the decision to go. Each of us have changed all so much since we were 19 year-olds living in our tiny, 90 degree heated, 4 bedroom apartment in Minnesota. We have all moved to different states, gotten married or engaged, graduated college, changed jobs, bought houses, and so much more.
Though the weather in Destin wasn’t what we expected, we still had a great time together! It was nice to sit down with a bottle of wine and just talk all about girly things that our significant others probably would rather gouged their ears out then hear. We broke into the pool in the condo, got kicked out of it and laughed the whole time doing it. We went fishing together, had our mani and pedi day, ate wonderful food, and really just enjoyed each other’s company. All in all, I got back totally exhausted, not in the best mood (flight was canceled), but it was totally worth it. For a person like me, who has moved every four years of her life, it is great to find such wonderful friends that I have had for 10 year now. I just hope the next time we do this, it won’t be a 20 year reunion!
Though I missed my husband, I think the time away was good for us. I came home to a husband that missed me considerably and even offered to go grocery shopping with me just to spend some extra time together. The moral of this story is: making time for your friends isn’t betraying your vows. It’s healthy to be apart from each other and make some good memories with your friends. It helps you grow more as a person and it reminds you how much your spouse really means to you. Besides, a little absence can really make the heart grow fonder!
Okay, so I know a lot of people hate Valentine’s Day but I’ve just never been one of those people… ever! I can’t think of a time in my life when I detested it or cried over it. Honestly, it’s just another day right? More importantly, I treat as I do a most holidays: a reason to dress festively and eat yummy food! I mean pink and red are two of my favorite colors so yay, I get to wear either of those AND I get to gorge myself with chocolate! How is this not a win-win situation??
But seriously, this is the first year Nathan and I have celebrated Valentine’s Day as *husband & wife* – and may I add that we are extremely happy and excited about this. Just being able to buy each other cards that say “husband” and “wife” … it just makes everything seem that much more special. We celebrated by going out to dinner at Spezia’s and then to the movie Valentine’s Day. I know some people say, “Valentine’s Day is stupid because you should celebrate your love every day.” Well, I disagree with this. I say, “Why not?” I mean, do you really celebrate your love adequately? every. single. day. Really?? In the midst of daily stresses from work and just life in general I think it can be difficult to make time for yourselves. So here’s one day that gives you the excuse to dismiss everything else going on and just have time to yourselves. Why not?
Every year, thousands of people make New Year’s resolutions. I looked it up and about 40-45 percent make resolutions and less than half of those people actually stick to their resolution. I have always somewhat prided myself on the fact that I have never made a new year’s resolution. I guess it was always the feeling that if 50 percent of the people fail at their resolutions, my odds are pretty low.
I have always been that person who starts projects and never finishs them. Take for instance my painting that I started 5 years ago. I haven’t even picked up a paintbrush (other then to paint my walls) and even come close to touching the canvas. And then there was the Shutterfly kick…. I went to Carlsbad Caverns 3 years ago, started the photo book and have yet to finish it. It really is almost done, I just have to do all the final proofing and somehow I have managed to put it off for the last 3 years. I could go on with more examples, but I think you get the picture. I start projects and never finish them.
So this year, again, I vow not to be that person who sets an unattainable New Year’s resolution that I will start and never finish. I decided to make my “New Year’s Ambitions.” I thought this sounded “fancier” so we will go with that for now (but it could change later).
Kitchen– After sitting with an unfinished bathroom for 6 months, one of which I started and then stopped, my husband made the rule that I cannot start another room in the house until the first room is completed. Not having my kitchen finished is torture! I love to cook, and it is really hard to cook with limited counter space and the floor covered in plastic drop cloth. Priority #1 this year will be to complete this project. Not only for my New Year’s ambition, but also my sanity.
Shutterfly– Finish the photo books I have started. I have two actually that I need to print that are so close to being finished I can taste it. Really, it’s all about taking 2 hours and proofreading my work.
China Pics– This task comes in steps. First, compile all my friends China pictures into one file. That means getting together, with their sd card, my flash drive, and some sort of computer all at the same time. This sounds easy, but usually one out of the three is missing. Once I have all the pictures together in one file, I need to edit all the photos. That means: red eyes, slants, blurs, and the occasional crazy hair on someone’s head. I mean EVERYTHING! It’s time consuming, but if I work on it during my downtime at work I figure I could really get it done in a month if I tried really hard. Then the final step, upload them to my ftp and send it out! That will be a glorious day!
Painting– The dreaded painting…really it’s not that bad. I cheat when painting. I couldn’t draw to save my life, so I printed the outline of Sunflowers by Vincent van Gogh on some canvas (5 years ago) and all I need to do is fill in the lines. It’s just like a large coloring book page. So why have I been putting it off?? I don’t know, maybe washing out the brushes, or not being in the right mood, or maybe that I am secretly still afraid of the basement so it is hard for me to be down there for extended amounts of time. Whatever the reason, I just need to get in gear, turn on some chic singers, have a glass of wine in hand and get that painting finished.
That is it! Four little ambitions for this year! Will this be another idea that goes so casually by the wayside? If 50 percent of the 50 percent of people who make New Year’s resolutions fail, the outcome is not looking the best for me. I will make the effort to write an updated blog at the end of the year, so I guess time will tell and in the words of Arnold Palmer, “Always make a total effort, even when the odds are against you.”